Today, I want to focus on the adult Self. From a psychological perspective, the adult Self is rational above all else; it views the world objectively and honestly and clearly sees what is happening within its own emotions and reactions. The adult Self intuitively understands that society’s challenges are complex and does not settle for low-resolution analysis of problems so common in today’s world. It listens before speaking because it realizes that what is unknown is far more significant than the partial knowledge we now possess. The adult Self takes responsibility for its own life, actions, and responses. Recognizing what it can and cannot do, it establishes appropriate boundaries with others. The adult Self does not fall prey to the pathological impulse of normality so pervasive in our present world and is therefore absolutely authentic. It feels the full range of human emotion without being controlled by passions. The adult Self lives from truth and speaks the truth without giving into the superficiality of virtue signaling. It lives its life in the service of noble pursuits and selfless love.
The adult Self cannot emerge from psychological analysis, reading a book, or listening to a lecture. Typically, the adult is born in the context of suffering, when the pain arising from the ego states of the child and the parent becomes so unbearable that there is a surrender to what is above the ego: God, the guru and one’s own Soul. For the adult, truth becomes more important than the avoidance of discomfort or the convenience of ideology, and the momentum of love becomes the organizing force of life. The adult finds the soul’s sustenance in silence. Gratitude and joy are never far from the adult’s experience. The adult no longer fears chaos because of the intuition that God is guiding everything and everyone. The adult will still experience pain, but it is contextualized within the consciousness of God’s presence and carried with dignity. Adults show gracious acceptance of imperfection within their own lives or in the lives of others. They enjoy and love the people God has placed in their lives without wanting them to be anything other than who they are or expecting them to make anyone happy. They love life without fearing death. They are free, and this freedom is an ever-deepening process.
Divine Mother,
When I need it,
Please say to me,
“It’s time to grow up.”
